Let me start by saying I try not to judge anybody for anything they want to do with their life. If I disagree with something you’re doing I discuss it at my kitchen table with myself or with a friend. It’s not for me to attack anybody for their choices. Who do I think I am God or something?
Somebody said something and I read something else somewhere and one thing lead to another and I decided to write this blog. There was a program on Jamaican television not too long ago, highlighting people who were bleaching their skin to achieve lighter skin tones.
But women like me who perm our hair to get it straight, I guess to achieve a more European look because that’s what the magazines and media told us long ago was beautiful, are we guilty of the same crime as the woman who bleaches her skin in hopes of becoming white? Now natural hair is becoming trendy for black women and there has been a lot of information going around on Youtube. But back then how may of us have been victim to these words, “She has bad hair” “She doesn’t have pretty hair”. I mean let’s be honest who made it pretty? what is pretty hair, I agree black hair is different, that doesn’t mean it’s bad.
A lot of black parents process their kid’s hair at a very young age, Fact the hair business became a billion dollar business because and made a lot of money from the black community. Black women aren’t the only ones who wear weave, but we do spend a lot more money on it. Afraid to wear our natural hair for whatever reason, we think we can’t be bothered, we tell ourselves that relaxed hair is easier to manage. But with all the things I go through with my relaxed hair and weave, I’m beginning to think none is easier lol.
Brings me back to this bleaching epidemic, so we were taught that Black is beautiful, but not as beautiful as the rest. In the black community lighter shades of black are praised and seen as extremely beautiful. If you aren’t mixed with something that could make you lighter, you just aren’t as beautiful. I love Beyonce but every time I see her L’Oreal advertisement in a magazine or on TV, Where she says the Story of her skin is African-American, Native American and French. I ask myself couldn’t she just be black, then I’m like Lauren why you hating, then I’m like is mixed the new “Browning”?
I find that as a black person I’m easily offended about foolishness, that’s something that seriously affects all black people. We take everything personal, everything is an attack on our blackness. ughhhhhhhhhh.
So I want you guys to comment and let me know how you feel, is skin bleaching and hair perming one in the same. Could they be seen as a form of self hate, am I blowing it out of proportion. What do you think?
xoxoxo Lauren O Lauren