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Me and my Puppy Henry

Me and my Puppy Henry

 Hi Everyone, it’s been a minute since I have posted anything from this site, well actually its been more than a minute more like an hour. I didn’t want you guys to think that I have forgotten about you, this was one of my very first spaces I occupied on the internet, I have a lot of fond memories here. I have been focusing all my attention to my new blog This Classic Style, I would love it if you guys hopped over and checked it out. It’s my all in one spot for Fashion, Decor and Inspiration, just you’ll find a lot of the inspiring stuff I used to write here, along with a little bit more. So much has been happening I got a new puppy this Summer, I enrolled in school this present Fall and I have so many different projects I’m working on that I can’t wait to share with. The year has had some bad, but overall this year has been very good to me and I want to keep sharing that with you guys. I have missed you guys and I hope to see you over at This Classic Style.Have an amazing weekend my love bunnies.

xoxoxo Lauren

Are Black People Racist????



This morning I woke up to  fresh pink roses, Brazilian coffee and my New York Times and a list this long of deadlines however  I opened my iPad and started watching youtube videos instead. Im glad I did because I came across this really interesting video by two girls talking about their experiences as a “Dark Skin girl”. A couple minutes into the video I considered writing about this on my blog but then changed my mind, I read my paper but something from the video had my mind working over time it was something the girls said.  They both grew up in fairly white neighborhoods and it wasn’t the white people who made them feel like their extremely dark skin was a problem it was other black people.

It really got me thinking how right they were, growing up in a country where there is 90% black ratio I have seen first hand how “We” black people deal with our fellow black people.  If you’re dark skin you get called names, you’re criticized, most black men prefer a light skin black girl, it got to the point where skin bleaching became huge.  I’ve never had a problem with the color of my skin and I have never ever tried bleaching, in my earlier years I wasn’t socialized in circles where complexion was seen as a status.  I hang out with a lot of different races and more often than not a lot of white people, when I try to explain to them the light skin, dark skin epidemic in the black community not only do they look at me stupid but someone actually said to me, “But you’re all still black people anyway.”  Are black people racist against their own kind? is Black on Black crime still the number one cause of death among black people? Why do we hate ourselves.

Yes I believe in racism and its still very prevalent, but maybe its time we stopped acting like their isn’t an elephant in the room. It’s time we addressed the issue of color status in the black community.

xoxox Lauren O Lauren

You name it I promise I’ve been Over it.



I try to stay as positive as I possibly can, but I’m going to be honest with you I don’t wake up everyday and it’s all rainbows and waterfalls. I’ll be going along life minding my own business when out of no where something slaps me across the face and I’m all caught up in my feelings. Im a pretty emotional person, which a lot of you already know I didn’t become the world’s last Drama Queen by staying calm. I read into every single situation, sometimes I have to tell myself the world is not against me but lets be honest the world has to be against somebody, this week it chose me.

Some days I wake up and I legit hear myself saying over and over “fuck this, fuck you, fuck that” I turn my phone off and go into a dark miserable place in my mind . Thank God for my amazing friends who will listen to me bitch and moan about a situation for hours and I really owe my sanity to those unlucky bastards because who knows what I’m capable, well actually we all know. I don’t always have good days sometimes I wanna quit and just stay in bed and wait for God to come back and claim the world.  Then I realize what’s happening , I always allow myself time to soak in a situation let it wash over me like a cold bath, so I can fully understand what’s happening because I’ve been known to make very rash decisions.

We get upset sometimes because we build up expectations of how things are suppose to be and how people are suppose to act, when the truth is there is someone out there angry at us for not acting how they expect us to. We’re not perfect so it’s unfair of us to expect perfection from someone else we all make mistakes so we can’t think someone else’s mistake is a plot against us (even though it really, really feels like it).

Life happens, people change and circumstances vary. So yes if you’re like me you’re probably having a bad day,  play the situation over and over again in your head for at least a week and see how you feel. Time heals, and sometimes it takes a really really long time.

xoxo Lauren

My life as an Alien

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alien-1Ok so I was watching this video today from one of my favorite #youtubbers lol and she was talking about being the ugly friend most of her life and how she kind of grew into her own and got over her insecurities and stuff like that. It inspired me to write about my own, I guess awkward experience also. lol

When I was growing up and don’t take this the wrong way, but no one told me I was pretty, they would always tell my sisters but no one told me. I knew I didn’t fit the Jamaican definition of pretty, I had dark skin and I didn’t have what they call “pretty hair” lol. Even in prep school I was always different from everyone else my parents didn’t own businesses and they weren’t married like everyone else’s, and as for parents I only had one.  I never quite fit in anywhere for as long as I can remember, I was different from my sisters and I was different from my friends. But unlike a lot of people who are different, I never thought there was something wrong with me, I never tried to fit in. I always felt that I was going to eventually find that place where I “Belonged”, I feel like I’ve been on a mystical quest searching for the Land of Lauren.

No one could make me feel unsure of myself, I was loud and in total control of myself, I was always an influencer and I never allowed anyone to influence me. So back when I started parting when all the people I hung out with took a cigarette to try it and got addicted, I to this day still have never tried weed, cigarettes or any other kind of social drugs.

I don’t know how many of you watched a video I did about the television industry on my YouTube channel, where I spoke about even though I’ve worked in media for over ten years, I was never considered media. I didn’t mind because I had my own way of doing things, while they followed  treatment & protocol I always freestyled lol.  I could go on and on, but the simple way to put it is that I am an alien.

There are people who feel uncomfortable in their bodies, like they want to be someone else, some people are unsure of who they are. I have always known who I was, I felt uncomfortable being a part of society hahahahah, I knew that society had different ideas of who I should be and quite honestly I’m not interested in that. I relished in being different, I liked it I have never felt lonely or bored I can’t say I know what those two emotions feel like. Yes I have been alone but I like being alone, as a matter of fact I prefer being alone, as for being bored *laughs* I always have so many things that I need to be doing even when I was a child. I was always organizing some event, a community club etc I was always planning. I was always locked away in my room literally scheming. When I was a toddler I was always wondering out the house, thank God I grew up in a nice crime free neighborhood where everyone knew my mother and I was always safely returned. I don’t know where I’m going with this blog but really just felt like I wanted to share that with you guys.

Not fitting in and being like everyone else or being “Liked” by everyone, is not a bad thing as long as you know who are you. You don’t need people or their opinions to define you, I learnt that at a very early age.

Have a great week everyone, and for those of you who are following my Change your life series on YouTube, Part 2 will be up this Wednesday.

xoxo Lauren

We don’t know how to be happy for others.

Happiness & You, Positive Living


What’s wrong with us?  What’s wrong with people?  Why can’t we just see other people doing well and be happy for them.  Why does it have to be a trade off of negativity.  An old friend got married and started her own business and her old friends said, “she got some idiot to marry her and is using his money to start a business.”  The bitterness makes me cringe, do you know there are people I don’t talk to anymore that have slaughtered my name like a butcher in a meat shop and I am nothing but happy for them when I see them living their best life.

The word WHORE in 2015



Ok Been thinking about writing this blog for some time now, but then when I started typing I changed my mind. Then this week Amber Rose and Khloe Kardashian had a very public Twitter argument that you can google and find somewhere. Personally I don’t care about Amber or Khloe they both have more money than me, they are OK honey, however the one thing I noticed in the argument was the word “whore”.

Remember when a whore was a gross looking woman who stood on corners in run down neighborhoods selling their bodies for money, while running from the cops? That was a long time ago and while you have many different legitimate type of “Whores”. I feel like women just love calling other women whores, it’s a word they just throw out there.  But I have also noticed that “whore” in 2015 has a few specific characteristics.

Whore Characteristics in 2015:

1 – She must be attractive, sometimes extremely attractive.

2 – She must be able to go from one relationship to another relationship seamlessly. Her “Move On” Game is as the young ones would say on”Fleek” Lol I hate that word tho.

3 – She must be a girl who any man, and every man would want to date.

4 – She gets what she wants from every man and every situation.

Since when does that make a woman a whore? It’s not any girls fault that she is attractive and most men want her. Women need to stop setting themselves up and setting our gender up for discrimination, Women spend so much time labeling each other its hard for men to respect us. You might think oh, it has nothing to do with how we treat each other, but think about it when Men talk about other men do they ever sound as bitter as we do towards each other? Do men call other men woman beaters, or players, or worthless baby daddies, no they don’t. It seems like for the most part men are just living and enjoying life as it relates to relationships and don’t have e to deal with slander from their fellow male counterparts. I don’t see men commenting under other dudes pictures on Instagram saying shit like, “You’re an asshole you left your pregnant baby mother at 3 months” or you Know you’re sleeping with three different woman & letting them all think they’re the only one” Guys don’t do that, its like they have a legit guy code.

Why do we have to be the weaker sex, I mean seriously we have advanced so much as women, we do so much for humanity and life in general, yet we can’t get over our bitterness for other women?? We have to stop and we have to start with the word whore, we have to cease and desist use of that word. Because us using it gives guys a reason to use it and they should never have any reason to disrespect us. It’s just not nice either, let go of that negativity and the hatred.

Anyways my lovelies, have a great weekend.

xoxo LaurenOLauren

What is Man?

Positive Living


Yes I just asked what is Man, I know it seems weird but its an honest question. Last week we got some bad news a friend of ours had gotten cancer and before he was able to treat it he died. On Thanks Giving day this person had an unusual cough and when he went to the hospital they told him they saw a baseball size tumor in his chest. Within four weeks the tumor had doubled in size and by the next four weeks later he was dead, just like that gone never ever to return. What is man?

More now than ever I suppose it comes with maturity, age, and yes experience but now more than ever I try to focus on the things that really matter to me. I don’t allow myself to get distracted by silly things or silly situations because I understand that my time here is borrowed. I don’t have to wake up tomorrow, I don’t have to be here next month, in an instant my whole life can change for good because accidents happen.

Here is my advise to you no matter how old you are, no matter what phase of your life you are in, everyone has a time this is your time you are here now. Live your life and don’t allow petty things to distract you from it, don’t allow petty thing to realign your way of thinking, don’t allow situations to convince you that life isn’t worth living.  Because we have life it is worth living and a life worth living is worth living well, find a filter and filter out the negative.  I saw this Meme/Quote on Instagram I think I should share it: “Every morning, we get a chance to be different. A chance to change. A chance to be better. Your past is your past leave it there, get on with your future”.

We are constantly redesigning ourselves, recreating ourselves we see celebrities recreate themselves in front of our very eyes. They aren’t the only ones changing, we change too.  Before you allow something to upset you, ask yourself, What is man?

Have an amazing week, hope you guys enjoy Valentines Day it is a day of love not necessarily about having a “boo”, so enjoy it.

xoxox Lauren O Lauren

What happens to people who don’t feel ordinary?

MTLkBeGTaHave you ever felt like you’re apart of something amazing? Like truly amazing like there are all these amazing things happening around the world and you are apart of it. Have you ever felt like you were about To do something great, you can’t sleep at night because you’re waiting for some mythical person to appear and tell you you’re mission. Ending his speech with, we’ve waited a hundred years for you, the world depends on you. Hahahahaha ok that’s a bit extra but you must know what I mean.
I get anxious sometimes, and then I look at other people who I suspect of being ordinary people, living ordinary lives and being totally ok with it, having super ordinary conversations with their friends, laughing ordinarily. I feel compassion for them, I feel so sad for them because they will never know what it’s like to feel that warmth inside of you, to feel like your insides are burning, like you’re whole body is on fire. Something amazing is happening like a secret club and you’re apart of it, apart of this amazing history and they’re just floating through the world doing as they’re told.
I feed on life and all it’s experiences, all the people that come and go with it, the scars that make me who I am.  I’m probably extremely ordinary, doing ordinary things. But I don’t  feel ordinary and I never felt like I fit in with “Normal”. What happens to people like me dying to make a contribution so big that it outlives us, do we ever get meet our mythical person who explains our mission, or do we just fizzle out and give up on our dreams because they seem too impossible, too big?
What happens to people who don’t feel ordinary?
I’ll tell you what happens to them, the difference between people who don’t feel ordinary and Ordinary people is ordinary people do what they are suppose to do no questions asked. They don’t let self doubt and personal demons stop them from getting up everyday and living their ordinary lives.
People who don’t feel ordinary are so caught in the feeling of not being ordinary, that all day long they swim around in their thoughts of uncertainty and sometimes never really achieve what they’re supposed.
The truth is we are our own worst enemies, no matter how many Instagram trolls we get daily.  People who don’t feel ordinary end up to be ordinary people if they don’t get over their fears of failing, simply put.
xoxoxox Lauren O Lauren

It’s ok to be bored, its good for your mental health.



What’s Bored? Whenever I hear people say “I’m bored” I always wonder how did that happen. It’s 2015 and the world of information and Technology just keeps growing, there is so much information and so much technology its a wonder we still get out of bed and go to work instead of our robot versions of ourselves right?

Remember when we used to go to the airport and wait two hours on our flight and sit in the waiting area in total silence, or buy a magazine to pass the time? Who remembers when reading a book meant carry the bulky thing around all the time and if you’re anything like me you still read traditional books.  Standing in the lines at the bank aren’t tedious anymore when you can check Instagram and tweet about the guy in-front of you talking too loudly on his phone. Yes more now than ever there are a million things to distract us and keep us occupied, but what are these distractions doing to us, how are they affecting our brains?

I might sound like I’m being dramatic or going on about nothing  but people need to be bored sometimes, the brain needs random pauses every now and again so that we can think. Think about new ideas, think about things we need to get done, think about things we are doing if we are constantly engaging our minds with petty distractions then there simply just isn’t enough time to think. Some people get extremely caught up in their internet lives and likewise some people get extremely caught up in other people’s Internet lives, checking constantly and comparing what that person said last week, to what they are saying this week. Marie Curie once said, “Be less Curious about people and more curious about ideas” and you can interpret that anyway you want to.

Im not saying we should  lock ourselves away in a  room and sit still with no distractions and Hum all day long, I’m saying we should do that sometimes.

Have a great week everyone, and remember it’s good to be bored sometimes. Also I know a lot of you here don’t know about my Fashion blog so check it out whenever you feel like here –  http://www.laurenolauren.com

xoxox Lauren O Lauren

11 Random Things I learned in 2014



Hey everyone before January ends and we can no longer talk about 2014 as if it was just last week, I made this little list weeks ago and totally forgot to post it. Im waiting on my 15 minute face mask to dry so I figured what better time than now.

1 – You can not swear for people no matter how long you know them, people just aren’t who they  say they are.

2 – The People who you expect to stand by you are sometimes not the people who do.

3- I learned how to cook just about any and every dam meal in this life, Honey I was in the kitchen in 2014!!!!

4 – You can sign out from Twitter & all your social Media accounts and not even miss it.

5 – You have to know when to quit; as general as that sounds knowing your limit and knowing when to walk away is very, very important.

6 – A lot of people think that being blessed has a lot to do with owning a lot of stuff, shoes, cars, purses, nice cars. But blessings is peace of  mind and good people in your life, knowing you dont have to worry about the bills, or getting good grades or people disappointing you. Honey that’s a blessing

7 – People like seeing people fall from Grace. If someone looks too good to be true, people will dig up the bad no matter how long it takes them.

8 – Good friends are people you don’t have to talk to everyday.

9 – Sometimes its best to just listen to people and support them, people don’t always need your advise even when they ask for it.

10 – Time waits on no man, so if there is a anything you want to do in life, Do it make plans and go after it

11- You learn that you might not meet the man of your dreams, because finding the man of your dreams is like looking for a specific pair of jeans and not finding it. So you have to go to the thrift store find something close to it and make some changes, you know make it work.

Sometimes we find the perfect man and he turns out to be gay or bisexual or something.